1) What do you want?
2) In the bigger scheme of things, how important is this?
3) What do you think is the main obstacle to progress?
4) What options exist, or can you create?
5) What are your next steps?
I’ve tried this approach with my children – e.g. if they’re struggling over GCSE subject choices, choosing sports vs. music or not knowing where to start with a long project.
The approach enables you to name & quantify the issue, deal with it objectively and work out a plan ahead. Even if all it provides is a catalyst for change – that’s still very useful.
Amazingly this also works in business – especially when thinking has become cloudy with a chance of meatballs.